The Tré-Kyros Exchange

I thought the whole ordeal about Pierre Fitch's racist tirade was a thing of a past that I wouldn't really have to revisit. And not because it's painful as some might think, but because it's sad to see someone walking around New York City with that attitude, therefore unable to embrace all this ethnically diverse city really has to offer.

This topic's re-emergence into my life came in the form of Kyros Christian.

Kyros Christian is on my friends list on both DList and PC PornSpace. On Sunday, August 10th, he sent me an invitation to the Pierre Fitch Network.

I replied to his invitation:
Thanks for your invitation to the Pierre Fitch Network. But if you read the following blog entry of mine, you'll see why I have to decline:
http://thelxtreme.blogspot.com/2007/12/alas-naming-names-in-racism-game.html

I got this email on PC Porn Space from Kyros Christian in response:
I left your blog a comment... I think you mistook what he meant by saying what he did. I dont think Pierre is a racist.

His comment read:
I know Fitch personally and I think this is taken a bit out of context... Just because you are not attracted to black men and youre white does not mean youre a racist... Its a sexual preference and fetish much like somebody who likes feet or bondage. Instead of piss, they like ethnic dick, instead of shit they like that white dick.I personally dont have any sort of sexual desire to engage in anything barbaric with any eskimos.. ugh!

I left this comment in response:
Kyros, you may know Pierre Fitch personally, and I that night I got to know him as Pierre Bitch. I know what I heard, the other people's look of shock shows they heard the same as me, and it was not taken out of context. I distinctly said that I understand how everyone has a preference. That's fine. BUT to say that the COLOR of a person's skin is what makes their skin feel better to the touch (as opposed to maybe their lifestyle causing that difference) is sheer racist ignorance that is unforgivable UNLESS the person grows up, and takes note of their misconception.

And this reply to his email after posting the comment:
I replied to your comment. But I feel we may have to agree to disagree. It may be that you really had to be there to understand . But here's a question for you, while you know him personally, have you had a talk with him where he shows some kind of admiration for people of other races? And I'm not talking about sexual admiration, I mean admiration in general.

This back and forth dialogue continued until about sometime after midnight (maybe around 2 AM) on August 11th. But to my last question, 2 weeks later, I still have yet to get a response from Kyros.

My thoughts about a lack of a response from Kyros is that either he is in denial of his friend's attitude towards people of a different color, or Kyros really had no answer to that question, because Pierre never has shown admiration for someone of another color. If the latter is the case, then that says little about Kyros, BUT speaks volumes about Pierre Fitch.

I understand that it is our human nature to initially defend our friends, even when they are clearly in the wrong. Is Pierre Fitch wrong for having a preference? NO. BUT he is wrong for being narrow-minded enough to spew out of his mouth a belief that a skin color you don't prefer makes the difference in how dersirable their skin texture is. To add insult to injury though were his words, "I don't play with guys like that".

"Guys like that"? What am I, a diseased animal that should be quarantined?
I am a human being, and if the fact of God making me a Black man made me not fit into Pierre's range of preference, then he should repectfully address my existence as simply saying "I'm not into Black guys", instead of referring to me as "guys like that". That terminology shows an extreme lack of respect for my human existence, which I did nothing wrong to him, therefore I did not deserved that.

All though I'm quite sure that Pierre was drunk during that tirade. That only speaks another volume about Pierre, because when most people are drunk, their most deep-rooted sentiments hit the surface, and Pierre words may have very well showed how alcohol brought those degrading sentiments for people of color to the surface. All it needed was a catalyst, and that guy's stupid joke was that catalyst.

In trying to defend his friend, Kyros has put himself in the middle of a situation he should have left alone. I have no ill feeling towards Kyros for trying to come to his friends defense. Like I said, it's natural to do so, and we have probably all made that mistake at one time or another.

I just hope that Kyros comes to realize who and what he is defending, and how people are so often considered guilty by association, even when that may not be the case. I hope it's not the case here, and Kyros is not a racist. And if he's not, I can't advise Kyros on how to handle this awkward situation. Where he has to figure out for himself a way that he can be honestly content with associating himself with a racist when he's not one himself. If that is at all possible, which I'm believe it can be. But I wish him the best of luck of finding a way that works.