Sex Party Etiquette: No Lying Hosts, No Bigoted Patrons

As I said yesterday in "Write That Down #12", I am considering starting my own sex party. As my most loyal readers know, I have went to quite a few. So it stands to reason that I have been able to take note of what works, and what doesn't in keeping regulars and making new people come in and want to become regulars as well.

I feel some new blood is needed desperately in the sex party scene here in New York, because if you live here or have visited here, you must admit to the fact that the sex party scene here in NYC SUCKS! And not in a good way. I must also add that while many people would be quick to blame the party host, it is in some cases the party-goers who are at fault.

One thing I have seen that causes me to consider becoming a new needed presence on the sex party scene here are hosts being so money hungry that they claim many hot in-shape guys will be in attendance, when there are a lot of guys in attendance, BUT ----only a handful are in-shape. And even that handful leave almost as quickly as they show up, because they see the false advertising as well. Sure the action starts early at parties run this way. But who is the action started by? ---- Out-of-shape trolls, so of course sex is going to happen early because trolls will take almost anyone there who is willing to give it up. Also, based on the advertisement they should not have been invited to that kind of party in the 1st place. Instead, they should have looked for a party with a more open-door policy.

Now this may seem cruel, especially if you are one of those out-of-shape people, but the fact is, if you didn't take care of your body, why should I or any of the fit patrons want to see you fuck, OR want to fuck you ourselves? It makes me feel the need to ask the same question a friend told me someone imagined asking some of these out-of-shape people at a sex party. That question being, "WOULD YOU FUCK YOU?!"

I wonder when will these hosts realize that it is a bad idea to promise in-shape men, yet letting there be a combo of out-of-shape guys and hot guys with the out-of-shape guys outnumbering the hot guys by a great percentage. Don't they know that this may start off making a good deal of money, but will eventually result in a quick nose dive in numbers of attendees due to their false advertising thanks to word-of-mouth?

I mentioned earlier how the out-of-shape guys get the action started almost as soon as they walk into the play area. My screening process would make sure that the hot guys I invite would do the same, and not treat my sex party like it's a lounge party. This is a matter I've addressed in a past blog entry. This is another flaw that stems from party-goers here where they stand around being so full of themselves that they wait for the other guy to make the 1st move, even when it comes to eye contact. That winds up making the action take forever and a day to get started. I want guests who won't sit around, and chat about the things you should have come to the party to get away from giving a thought to. Nor or they to point and giggle like little school girls when others are man enough to suck and fuck like they are supposed to at a sex party, just as I've seen many a stereotypical fag do at sex parties catering to the "hot and in-shape". If I make a party, I plan to cater to hot and in-shape guys, too, but I'll be screening to lock my party door to chatterbox Chelsea queens.

Another flaw is the same one I mentioned in "Write That Down #12", and is also a flaw of the party-goer persnality (or lack thereof). I've seen the practice of people sticking to "their own" so much that not only did it inspire yesterday's post, but it inspired me to send an email to a party host as to why I wouldn't help him promote his party as I had originally said I would. For this reason, I think party-host should do better screening of who they put on their guestlist, where if a potential party-goer dares to say that a person of a certain ethnicity is excluded from playing with him, then that potential part-goer should be banned from attending. For I feel segregated behavior should be a private party where no money changes hands, making that the punishment for practicing segregation in the 21st century.

Now, I  know that creating a party that press such rules upon my guests and myself as host could make for a small turn-out. At least I would have the satisfaction of knowing that I created an atmosphere that was more free of racism than any other in this city than I've ever experienced thus far, and more full of the hot guys ready-for-action that I would promise. Because for me, it is quality over quantity.

However, quantity would have some say as to whether or not my ideas would work out for a short or long term basis. With that in mind, some may ask, what happens if my idea doesn't work out? My answer is simple. Like my life in porn, it's just a sex party, so if the people don't take the great quality ideas I have to offer ----then just like the slumming they are doing now with the bigoted and lying actors, producers, and directors in gay porn, they can continue that slumming with bigoted patrons and lying hosts that they are presently dealing with for sex parties. In short, I will move on to invest my time in something worthy of my insightful attention.

Have hearing the lack of ideas like mine being implemented the reason why those of you who would like to attend a sex party don't even bother? If I start a party with those ideas in mind, would that make you come...in more ways than one?

Let me know what you think. And if I don't do it, maybe someone else will read this, and at long last bring these great ideas to fruition for your pleasure.